Feeling like you have to do all the things. One of the first times I went on a retreat I attended every event on the schedule (when will I get to do water aerobics again?!). I stayed up way later than I would have liked (can’t miss any important conversations!). I basically said yes to everyone and everything the entire weekend and left feeling more depleted than when I arrived. I remember walking past one of my cabin mates on my way to another afternoon activity. A more seasoned mom of 2, she was binging Netflix on her laptop, complete with snacks and red wine. “I learned the hard way last year,” she said. I wish I knew the wisdom her words contained at that time, but I have to admit I still may not have listened! Bottom line-boundaries are key. Know your personal social time limits, know what refuels you, and know what you want most out of your time away.
Leaving the snacks behind. Show up with plenty of snacks tucked away to compensate for any less-than-satisfactory meals. At one retreat a friend and I sat for dinner with a woman who was traveling alone. She sent a photo of our meal to her friends and they were very concerned: “Are you in a prison camp?? Do we need to come get you??” The meals at this particular retreat could be best described as “camp food,” and in true camp fashion, if you weren’t one of the first in line it was slim pickings when you came through with your tray. Bring your favorite snacks to keep the “hangries” away and keep your energy up for hiking, yoga, or whatever activities you’d like to enjoy.
Not springing for a private space (when you know you really need it). During one retreat weekend I built what was essentially a sheet and blanket fort around my bunk for privacy and better sleep. Privacy is key for me and as it turns out I’m not a fan of bunk beds for grown-ups. However, I highly recommend a sheet and blanket fort should you find yourself in a similar scenario.
Worrying about the kids (or pets or work or whatever you’re leaving behind). The kids are okay! In fact, they’re more than okay! They’re having a blast with Dad/Grandma/babysitter and eating McDonald’s and whatever else they can get away with. Work, kids, and all the other responsibilities you’re leaving behind will still be waiting for you when you return. One word: unplug. Set up times you plan to check in otherwise embrace this opportunity to completely rest and restore your spirit.
Being afraid to go solo. It can be a little scary to think of embarking on a retreat alone, wondering if it will feel clique-y and you will be the odd one out. The truth is many women travel solo to local retreats, especially the more boutique offerings. Some attend with friends but I have yet to come across anyone who isn’t friendly and interested in meeting more retreat peeps. If a local retreat is something you’ve been wanting to try, go for it!
